My life is bogged down by many things.
Gmail, Blogspot, Myspace, Facebook, Twitter, Texting
Even if there is no way to be on a computer, facebook mobile to the rescue.
Confession!
I had a problem with chatting, a new thing that came out where you can talk to people you know through a computer or with people from all over the world and strangers. Chat rooms and the internet impacted our generation. In middle school there was this need to be loved, to have friends, to be accepted.
My friend and I enjoyed talking to people and went on to chat rooms together.
Sometimes my parent's would say something about time spent on there and I quickly got off, but then they forgot.
One night my friend and I stayed on until 5 in the morning, my dad came downstairs, did not yell but nicely said it's time for bed. Well we ended up getting these emails of these boys we had met on a chat room and began email corresponding, I even would sneak on chatrooms during the day, creep up quietly at night to the computer and go on the same chatroom to talk with different and sometimes the same people.
Then my mom who is wonderful, noticed after awhile. She punished me and I was banned from the computer for a whole month. Most likely only the internet while still playing Oregon Trail(holla anyone?). I never had a problem after that and quit cold turkey. It can be as simple as talking with strangers and feeling this emotional connection, it is a dangerous thing because remember this
stranger danger....
Before I came to North Central there was a group called I Want To Be A North Central Freshman!
Quickly joined and met people and added them as my friends. We began talking, getting to know one another and it was if we had met. Well when the time to come here came, some people I have as deep friends now, but 3/4 of those people are not even my close friends and know so much about my life and I felt this deep connection.
I feel as if the internet, chatting, etc., gives us these unrealistic ideas that someone we chat with is there in person, but you are not, you can't see the hidden jokes in between the lines, you can't read body language.
From freshman year at college to now, my junior year, I realized revamping my system was necessary. Looking through my friend's list I realized I had people that I know but I never talk to, we may not get along, or have anything to ever talk about. This year there was a goal in place for me to reach 1,000 friends on facebook. I would talk to to people about it, brag about how I had 950. Then when this thought came to mind I'm like, how can me, ONE person keep up with 1,000 people it's impossible. If facebook is used to know people, I can't. My status, updates, everything is cluttered by a million things that will not even matter to me or keep me from what's in front of me.
So being at 950 I challenged myself to go through my friend's list and erase about 300 people. Whether they were from high school, North Central, the past, present, whatever. I realized some people I won't get to know and that is ok.
Last then recognize everyday. Whether it's a girlfriend complaining about her boyfriend, flirting with somebody else, seeing pictures of a new couple, reading something and taking it out of context, etc. Take some time and look at the drama facebook causes, what it makes you think about, and how you look at facebook and might, well most do STALK people. It's true, we look up somebody, we don't know them, but somebody knows them, so you look through their pictures, you find mutual friends, yous see them around, things could be awkward.ing is that we tend to be people who want to know things. Gossip is very easy to slip into. Facebook creates drama and sometimes we are unaware. Be conscious of what you are doing.
What I do know is I need to know people in the now, talk to them, go out for coffee, take walks, phone conversations, texts here and there, letters, visits, etc. For me to stay off chat and find other ways to talk like go out with people, take walks, be with people. Be present, be fully there, not bogged down by a million devices.
One last thing I want to point out is we fill our minds with so many ideas, what people say, great quotes, not so good language, and so much more. Why don't we narrow it down so we can get a majority of great things rather than settle for the clutter of life.
Challenges for you:
Do things with a purpose.
De-Clutter your life.
Only blog once a week rather than once a day, save an hour a day for exercise, hanging out, or spending time with God!
Talk with people in person, it's better, less likely to cause drama(depends on each person)
Avoid chatting(it wastes time, it can cause drama, it can be weird and you may not really talk to that person in such a way you would talk to a friend)
Be friends with who God's put you with. Be who you are called to be and know that you influence them as well as they influence you.
YOU ARE WHO YOUR FRIENDS ARE!
You want to be a good friend and how are you supposed to do that when you are focused on the past relationships. Step up, live in the now.
Go out, don't sit at a desk. There is a big world ready to be explored each and everyday!
You don't want to end up like this guy anyways..
- Heather Cheryl Craig
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